love advice:The Magic of Making Up!
Were you too controlling in your relationship? Did he/she kick you out because you smothered them, were too bossy and demanding? Did you have to know where they were at all times and try to make them spend their free time with you? Were you too much in control? You can learn more about getting your ex back here.
These kinds of behaviors smother your mate and it is only natural that they will reject you for it. At first it might have been kinda cute or something, but after a short while it shows up as a big problem for your ex. When they start to feel they can’t breathe without your knowing about it they begin to tire of you fast. You get the boot.
Ok. Now here you are all alone again. Maybe its been a week or a few months. You are missing your ex terribly. You want them back in your life. Is there anything you can do to bring them back to you?
The answer is that it depends on how controlling you were in your relationship with your ex. You may have caused too much hurt and rejection from your ex. You may even need some relationship coaching before you get back into a love situation with anyone. Love and power over another are not the same thing, and mixing them up can kill the intimacy in a relationship.
You may, however, get your ex back if you didn’t cause irreparable harm. And that begins with seeing that power over and need and dominance are not the same as love and intimacy. If you see that controlling behaviors like keeping them from friends and making them account for their time away from you is not healthy, that is a good beginning.
The question is, did you learn something from the experience of being dumped by your mate. If so, that is something that can actually help you get your ex back. You can get a complete system for Get Ex Back here: The Magic of Making Up!.
The next step is to have a special 20 minute or so conversation with your mate. In this conversation you have to accomplish several things. Acknowledge the damage you caused them, let them vent to you about how you hurt them, and then convince them that you truly have learned from your mistakes and won’t repeat the behavior. It isn’t easy, but if you can accomplish those things you can make room for your ex to begin considering you in a better light. We all like to feel we have helped people to learn things in life.
We don’t have room for all the in depth details, but start with these two steps and you may be able to get them back. If you have learned from your mistakes and can convince them of that fact, they may be willing to try dating you again. Go here for a free course on How To Have Marital HelpMarriage Made Easy.
